In todays society it seems as though being single is a curse. Everyone feels bad for the single ones. It's doomed to the unfortunate, the losers, and the freaks. People begin to associate it with being lonely. Every blog I've looked at on christian singleness has been utterly depressing. How can people who have their full and complete trust in God be so depressed on being single? Today I challenge that statement on being lonely by saying when you are pursuing God with everything you have, the very last thing that you are is lonely.
God is the only person I want in charge of my future. Over this past year I’ve seen God do some insane things in my life. From allowing me to direct camps that glorify His name in my city, showing Jesus' love to those with absolutely nothing, pouring my heart out and teaching middle school girls about how much Jesus loves them, and teaching ME incredible ways to pray, it's clear that dating relationships have not been in the cards. I know that if He wanted me to be in a relationship I would be. He obviously has a different plan at the moment.
Knowing that He purposely has me single during this season encourages my heart and makes me excited. He has a plan for my life. I’m not in some “in-between” stage waiting for my life to begin. My life is happening right now. Your life is happening right now. Don't be so focused on being single that you miss the opportunities that God has placed in your life! In Luke 10:2 it says, “The harvest is plentiful, but the workers are few.” There are so many opportunities for you to be able to glorify His kingdom, but you just have to notice them. God has amazing plans for you and you have so much to offer to this world! You will be amazed the more you work for God the less you will worry about being single.
Look at the title. I am single because.... How many times have we told ourselves that? I am single because I'm too fat, to skinny, too dumb, too ugly, too independent, ect. When we rely on a relationship to make us happy that is when we have made it an idol. You see, in Heaven we won't have mates, we will be fully devoted to God. So if we can't be in love with God now and know that He alone is enough we will never be happy. We will always be searching, searching for a fulfillment that only God can fulfill. Relationships are not designed to fill us completely, only God is. If it is God’s intention to connect you with someone, then it still won’t be about you; it will be about His glory. Until we understand that, better yet, until we accept that, He will make us wait because of the value He has on our lives. And if we are too desperate to wait, we will enter something that He never ordained, then end up getting mad at God, and beg Him to fix it. We have a lot to learn. His timing is perfect.
How many times have we ended that sentence with I am single because that is where God has me right now and He has plans for me that don't involve another person. Because that is exactly what God is telling us. Instead we fill that statement with fear. Fear of the unknown, which tempts us to worry.
What if I am alone forever?
What if all my siblings get married?
What if people feel sorry for me?
What if I keep getting older and older and older and older.....
It all comes back to the statement, "I don't know what my future holds, but I know who holds my future."
God right now has been molding me. I have finally accepted that the Jesus is all I want; everything else can wait. Does that mean my desire for a family is gone? Honestly, no. But I am at the place where if it’s not His plan for me, I’m okay with it. I want what God wants for my life. My desire is to please Him. My desire for His love is greater than my desire to be in a relationship. I now am in love with Love Himself.