I don't know about you guys, but when I am shopping I can make many reasonable excuses in order to buy something that may be a little too tight or a little too short. "Oh, it will match perfectly with those shoes I have!" or "All the other girls wear short shorts and I want to fit in!" But remember God doesn't want us to fit in! in Romans 12:2 it says Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. How encouraging is that! Dress in ways that would make God happy!
Now I do think there is some middle ground to all of this modesty talk. I was never one to wear a giant Jesus loves you t shirt over my bathing suit, because frankly I cannot swim in that! But I also wasn't one to wear mini skirts on the way to school while I witnessed to people about Jesus. Because no matter what people say wearing revealing clothing does make our brothers stumble. This, however, does not mean that we need to cater our dressing habits toward them. There are two extremes, dressing to make men notice you and dressing to not make them notice you, but one thing we are laking in these two possible choices is dressing to make yourself feel good. Some girls are taught keep your arms folded in front of your chest, wear lose clothing, and have absolutely everything covered up. While others are taught you need to have males attention to make something of yourself, wear that sexy outfit to the interview, wear the tight shorts on a date, do anything to get him to notice you! Its all about your heart behind what you are wearing! During cross country season I would run down a busy street in a sports bra and shorts, not because I wanted the attention from all the cars driving by, but because it was 100 degrees and it was too dang hot to wear anything more!
But most if the time girls know exactly what they are doing. They dress to impress, but not always in a good way. They've got their eye on a guy and they think the hotter the clothes the more attention the will get from them. How sad is that. A man should love you for you! Not how tight or short your clothes are. He should love your relationship with God, your personality, the way your smile lights up a room, not how sexy your clothes are.
Modesty to me is not controlling the sexual impulses of a male, but rather dressing appropriately and having fun! Enjoy the body God gave you. Wear clothes that make YOU feel good. Dress with dignity, freedom, and beauty! Dress in clothes that you can run around in, have fun in, be yourself in.