Now I'll be the first to admit, my pinterest wedding board is practically exploding with lace wedding dresses, glamorous rings, and wedding pictures that make National Geographic photographers jaws drop. But that doesn't mean that I am obsessed with the idea of dating or marrying someone anytime soon. I know that God doesn't have marriage in my future right now. How do I know this? Because I'm not married or in a relationship! And I'm totally ok with that. I'm ok with being alone, and that's where so many people go wrong. They absolutely cannot be alone. Many of my girls feel like if they are not in a relationship with someone then they are worthless. In order to feel like they have worth they have to be wanted by a guy and if no one wants them at that very moment there is absolutely no worth to their life. Now don't get me wrong, its nice to feel wanted, but it shouldn't decide the worth on your life. Only God can decide that. I do think dating is very important, but your heart needs to be right when going into a relationship.Here are somethings that should be thought about before entering a relationship.
1. Dating will NOT make you happier:
All I have to say here is that your happiness should not be based off of your circumstances, but off of your relationship with Jesus Christ. Of course you should be in a relationship that makes you happy, but it shouldn't decide your happiness.
2. Date with a purpose:
Don't just date someone just to say you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Date someone because you can see yourself marrying them in the future. Some may say this is old fashion, but to me I feel like it saves a lot of heart ache.
3. Don't let your mind marry him:
Dreams and unrealistic expectations can be the biggest killer in many relationships. Not everything is going to be perfect so don't expect that. Many girls can be found guilty of planning your future with guy before you've even talked twice. Trust God with your future and don't emotionally attach yourself to someone who you barely know and it will save you a lot of heart ache.
4. Don't fall in love with someone's potential:
This is the one I struggle with the most. One of my spiritual gifts is mercy. I love to see the best in everyone. This can be tough when dating. I fall in love with the guys potential, but now who they truly are. Don't fall in love with his potential, fall in love with who he really is. So if he's been in juvi twice, but says he read his bible last week, its probably not a good idea.
5. Know where your worth comes from:
Don't let your worth come from some guy you just met. Let your worth come from the man who made the mountains, the skies, the entire universe! Just because you aren't dating anyone doesn't make you any less valuable from when you are dating someone.
Dating is an interesting animal. You really just have to have the right heart behind it. Know who you are and don't let your worth be decided by some guy. You are wanted relentlessly by our father. You are fearlessly, passionately, and unendingly loved by God. If you know this He will eventually send you the right one.